Mind tricks.

♫ Billy Talent — "Chasing the Sun"

Brace yourself, this is going to be one long ass post.

Nothing is truer than the saying that goes; judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are. It's becoming a social epidemic and it's really sad to see more people are falling into it.

Few days ago, a friend asked me why didn't I post any of my cookings on my Instagram. I told her, because it's really personal to me. Then she said, but if they're good, why not? Unless they're not good lah. Uh, this is what is wrong with the virtual society now.

I've seen a lot of youngsters trying to pick on other youngsters by using their social media profiles nowadays. It's kinda sad, that people tend to think that someone is posting only the good stuff on their social media just to hide the bad parts of it and only show their "perfect" life to the world. There is even this one quote that says to not be envious of what other people are showing on their social media because it's not even the real version of their lives. Now hold on a second.

How is it that it's the fault of that other person's Instagram that you have to feel jealous and demotivated by it? Don't you think the problem is actually from yourself? How is it possible that someone else's life could actually affect your self-esteem if it weren't with your own consent? Why did you even have the need to feel such way?

Because of this quote, more people are bashing these other people who chose to share the good things in their lives to the world. People are so busy wondering what would be the bad things that they are trying to hide behind those happy photos on their social media, rather than just embrace the positive things that should have been the result upon seeing those pictures. Why must we be bitter over someone else's life rather than aspire to have such amazing life too? It's not their fault that you are so easily affected by other people's portrayal of their lives (of which in most cases, are not even related to yours at all lol ok how funny). It always comes down to finding what's wrong with that particular person instead of searching what's really wrong with us that we couldn't just see the good things as it is that we need to wonder if that smile on her photo is really genuine at all.

And I never really agree about social media being a place to just expose the good parts of your life and not the bad parts of it. But taking common sense into account, who the heck would share the bad parts of their lives; I can't even brain. I disagree with such mentality because I for once, don't post up the best parts of my lives, despite having a curated Instagram (this matter seems to be another problem to those bitter social-media-hating people out there and I'll get back to that later).

Like I said earlier, I never posted my cookings on my Instagram (unless you're on Snapchat lol come and follow me at ainology I welcome all good-hearted people) because it's one of the very few things I love and what I'm really good at and I cook on a daily basis so I don't think it's okay to post about it now don't you think so? And then, my poems. It is such a therapy to me and I love creating them for people who love them just as much as I do but I don't share it on my Instagram anymore. It is also something I'm really good at. And also, my job. I love my job so bloody much it could even make you hate your job but I don't share it on my Instagram. Why?

Because I believe in filtering what goes onto your social media is equivalent to taking control of your life. You get to choose what people can see and what people cannot see. What people can use against you behind your back. What could be the topic of their latest gossip especially when you're not their cup of tea (ha ha, sorry if I caught you guys red handed, I know you're an avid follower of my blog too but it's okay, thank you.) However, whatever feelings fruited in YOUR heart, from MY social media accounts - is clearly not my problem. Some people need to stop wondering what could be wrong with that person, and just be a good audience instead. Or hey, love yourself more, perhaps? That could definitely help, I'm sure.

The saddest thing about this whole perception is that; it's okay for celebrities to do it. People even want to copy the same thing. But when your friends, or someone you actually know do it, you'd say - "they're just trying too hard". We are such a good supportive community to live in, aren't we! Applaud, my fellow friends. Please give yourself a round of applause for such double standard.

Because of such mentality, more youngsters refrain from sharing their talents and lives on their social media now though for fear that they get judged like this. Why can't we just let everyone embrace their lives however they want and be happy with it? If their accounts are such an eyesore to you and your self-esteem, might as well just stop following and stalking them now kan betul tak? Haha.

Ramadhan dah dekat, dah boleh start purify our hearts kot. You want to know my secrets to having a jealous-free heart? That'll be my next post, soon. OK selamat berhujung minggu.

p/s: I'm not perfect, I was once with such mentality too but then having younger siblings taught me a lot about being a good example for future reference and also being friends with positive people did help me a lot. So hey, look back and evaluate if anyone else is influencing the bad feelings you have for other people's lives. If not, hmm my friend you need to do some self-detoxification or something. (insert hugs)(bitter people need more hugs OK please get someone to give you for free)

Ok it's ending for real here. Bye.